Have your ever lost that fun feeling? Has your happiness gone into hiding? Your laughter been lost? Part of my journey, well really the journey of finding Frances or Frances Found is creating a life well lived. A fundamental part of that is in fact…fun.
I have this laugh that is, distinctive I suppose is the best word for it. I have some friends who tell me that hearing it cheers them up. What a great compliment.
The laugh though, it disappeared for more than a few months, perhaps longer. I realized that I missed laughing and laughter itself. Did you know laughter is good for your immune system? There’s even laughing yoga. Yes, I seem to acquire these tidbits of knowledge. At any rate, I decided I was going to find my laugh and laughter again.
The first part of this is acknowledging and accepting I can be very serious and intense. But! I also have this whole other whimsical and slightly zany sense of humour. I love making plays on words and can definitely find humour when perhaps others don’t.
Gretchen Rubin’s book, The Happiness Project, is a month by month breakdown of becoming happier. One of the areas that she talks about is the importance of play.
Finding fun through play
I couldn’t agree more. Which got me thinking about what activities bring me happiness, what playful things encourage the laughter in me? Are you drawing a blank, like I did? One way to solve that, is to think about happier times. What are you doing? Consider the who, what, and where.
Then, I thought about play itself. As kids there was a lot of spontaneity.
If I had my druthers, I would love having a group of friends who would go out and do random things. Like maybe build snowmen near a retirement home. Just for the fun of it and to bring a surprise to the people living there. Okay, yeah sometimes I like to combine my fun with the chance I can bring a smile to someone else’s face. I find that fun.
What else? Friends and food, almost always some kind of fun will emerge.
I wonder about trying some childhood pursuits…like jump rope. I found “Double Dutch” – google it!, challenging. And there were songs with that. Of course you need others willing to try.
Tobogganing – zipping down a hill and climbing back up. I would spend hours on a winter afternoon bundled up and enjoying this simple activity. Imagine what great shape we’d be in if we did that now!
Bike riding. Feeling the breeze on my face. Smelling the flowers, hearing the birds as I quietly zip along.
That might be the key. Simplicity, spontaneity and I think throwing in some new things.
Fun is also about letting go of worry and just doing. Truly being in the moment and letting loose. Of not doing something perfectly, just doing it and accepting whatever occurs. Oh yeah, it is also about being willing to not take it too seriously and be able to laugh at yourself.
I will keep you posted on my fun and would love to hear what sets your laughter off.
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